In some ways, you may think that COVID-19 was “easier” for those who feel anxious in social situations. For some people, that’s true. For many people with social anxiety, lockdown and isolation wasn’t too stressful. In many ways, this new stage of the pandemic has been more stressful than the first for many people dealing with social anxiety.
The biggest stressor many are feeling anxious about is the idea of socializing again. Of course people have missed their friends and family, but many haven’t had an in-person encounter with someone who isn’t part of their pod in quite some time.
Social anxiety has become exacerbated as a result of lockdown. Many people have noted that after having an in-person conversation, they feel nervous and wonder, “Was that weird? Do I even remember how to socialize?”
As those with social anxiety know, worrying excessively about social situations makes you feel worse. It can reduce positive emotions, hinder achievements, increase loneliness and depression, and possibly result in engaging in substance abuse.
Here are tips and tricks for overcoming social anxiety and easing into in-person socialization:
Start Slowly
You don’t have to see every single person right away. Remember, you can choose who you want to see. If you don’t feel comfortable seeing somebody, you don’t have to! You can see as many or as few people as you would like.
Keep Your Boundaries
You do not have to sacrifice your boundaries if you do not feel comfortable seeing somebody. If you want to keep your mask on, you do not have to take it off to please anybody. If you need to keep your plans brief, make your preferences known. You are more than allowed to decline plans or plan social events with whoever you want. Everyone’s boundaries and needs are real and should be honored.
Talk About It
If you are feeling anxious about socializing with a particular person, or socializing in general, reach out. Of course that can be stressful, but talking about it in the long-run will make this process much easier.
You can say something as simple as, “I’m excited to see you, but it has been a while. I’m feeling a bit anxious about that.” Remember that you are allowed to express yourself. Stating how you are feeling can break the ice and open up a conversation. They may feel the exact same way, and it can be an excellent way to help you feel more comfortable if and when you meet up.
Your Feelings Are Valid!
If you are feeling nervous and awkward about socializing in-person again, you are far from alone. Even people who don’t generally have social anxiety are finding it hard and scary to socialize in-person again. Extend yourself a ton of grace and patience as you navigate this.
As you look for ways to socialize in-person with family and friends, remember to respect your own boundaries and needs. Go at your own pace, and remember that everything you are feeling is valid.
“Your feelings are valid and real. Do not let anybody denounce them just because they do not feel the same way.” – Courtney Peppernell, Author
